Workplace violence, domestic disputes, child abuse, animal cruelty, and school assaults are only a few of the ways our society suffers from violent and disruptive behavior. This type of behavior is the result of stressful events that trigger an individual’s inability to control his or her anger, and often has negative consequences for all parties involved. Behaviors leading to the crime that has taken over our city streets have now moved into our everyday lives. We are dedicated to solving this problem by providing a positive way of looking at anger management and helping individuals develop a healthy personality.
Anger is a completely normal human emotion, but you have to manage it correctly. We need to learn to control our anger instead of letting our anger control us if we want to minimize violent and disruptive behavior. Did you know:
- Violence causes more than 1.6 million deaths worldwide each year
- Men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults in the US each year
- Youth homicide rates in the US are more than 10 times that of other leading industrialized nations
- 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during their lifetime
- 44% of women say they experience road rage on a daily basis
- The world spends just $1 on conflict prevention for every $1,885 it spends on military budgets
- Life skills training results in up to a 42% reduction in physical and verbal violence
- Emotional intelligence or social/emotional learning practices implemented in schools to develop healthy personalities in students led to a decrease in suspensions by 79%
Anger Management Assessment
Like anything, if you want to improve, you need to know where to start. The Anger Management Map™ is a research-based online assessment. It utilizes a cloud-based technology infrastructure so assessment results are immediately scored, graphed, and saved. The assessment measures skills such as:
- Empathy (the ability to put oneself in someone else’s shoes)
- Interpersonal Assertion (the skill that helps people communicate effectively, honestly, and appropriately)
- Stress management (the ability to respond appropriately in stressful situations)
- Change orientation (the degree to which people are motivated to change – this scale is a reliable predictor of the potential for success through training)
The assessment, though, is just the beginning. It gives you a starting point for identifying strengths and weaknesses and helps focus on what needs improvement – all on an individual basis. Our skill interventions then focus on the three main areas in the assessment – Interpersonal Assertion, Empathy and Stress Management – and deliver targeted instruction in the areas of greatest need. Once each skill intervention is complete, there is as post-assessment that documents any change in the skill area. Our process is a validated approach to attack anger in a positive way and enhance individuals understanding of their emotions and how to control them effectively.
Quick Anger Management Techniques
Handling anger in a positive way and controlling emotions takes time. It isn’t a light switch that can be turned on or off. It takes practice and repetition to change habits for the better. Below are just a few examples of what our skill-interventions offer once the assessment is complete. You can click here for a complete trial.
1. Stress Management
|Stressor||When do you most often have this stressor?||Self-reflection: What can you do to improve?|
|Checking time often|
|Eating and/or moving very fast|
|Rushing to places when there is no need|
|Standing in lines|
|Letting others get to you|
|Not taking time off to relax|
|Trying to do everything perfectly|
|Not getting along with others|
|Getting angry when someone says you did something wrong|
|Always trying to beat others|
|Not getting things done on time|
|Worrying about things|
2. Interpersonal Assertion
Assertion is a new, better way of acting. We have two basic, natural ways of acting when faced with stressful situations: fight or flight. Flight or passivity is when we run away from difficult situations, whereas fight or aggression is when we take on the situation with anger and force. Rather than fighting or taking flight, assertive people discuss openly and calmly what they want. Assertion is the best way to act in difficult, stressful situations.
Let’s answer some questions for a short activity. Try to be as honest as you can.
1. What is aggression?
2. What is deference?
3. What is assertion?
4. Think of words that come to mind when you feel fighting mad or aggressive. List them below.
5. Now write the words that came to mind when you give in to others who seem to be behaving aggressively toward you.
6. Finally, write five words that come to mind when you try to solve stressful situations using assertion. How do you act when you assert yourself?
7. In stressful situations, what does this mean: Fight vs. Flight?
Here are 5 tips for building a trusting relationship
- Learn to trust others
- Earn the trust of others
- Share information, thoughts and feelings
- Show weakness and take risks
- Be personable
Take some time to think about the following questions:
- If you assume that people are bad or evil, why would it be hard to learn to trust someone?
- Explain why the best way to find out if you can trust someone is to go ahead and trust them?
Anger Is Only The Beginning
Anger is just one emotion that can be easily identified, and is part of an individual’s deeper social/emotional skillset called “emotional intelligence.” Emotional intelligence is a learned ability which enables individuals to identify, experience, understand, and express one’s emotions in a constructive, healthy way. By looking at the bigger picture we can begin to identify and improve other emotions and weaknesses to make us better in both our careers and lives.
We offer a FREE EQ workshop which teaches the foundational principles of emotional intelligence and shows you how you can effectively assess teach these critical success skills. You can sign up to claim your spot for this completely free training course below.